That is HUGE! It does seem that your wife has moved in your direction in the last few months. That is clearly an effort on her part to be physical with you.

I suggest you ask her for a shoulder massage a few times. This is a nice way to have some intimacy, that can be pleasant and perhaps even slightly sexual but without the expectations of performance and the anxieties that come with it. Perhaps you offer to massage her also. This a fabulous way to gently work up to being sexual and solving one of the biggest issues facing you two.

Me 44 She 46
S13 D9
M18 T23
3 years DB'ing
Successfully busted