You are not lying if you don't "freely" offer up information about your situation. It is absolutely no one else's business. However, if you are approached by someone and they ask, just simply state "we are separated" and leave it at that. Your business is not fodder for others to discuss behind closed doors.
As for being the mouth piece and sharing the news on FB or any other way...I say, if your h wants people to know, he can tell them. He wants you to do it because you'll put a nice spin on it...don't help him w/this. You do not want the separation/divorce, so why should you tell people that you are happy w/everything that is going on. Bottom line...your h doesn't want to come off looking like the @ss that he is in what he's done and continues to do. Do not help him w/this. He wants out, he can deal w/the consequences of his actions.
I appreciate what you've shared about your parents and the neighborhood where you were raised. I truly believe, from reading your postings, that your children do have it better and they will again...it will take some time, but you are a strong and independent woman who will take care of them. No one could see into the future that your h would have a crisis, not even he knew it was coming. We just have to hope and pray that he navigate the crisis and return a rational and mature man to be the father that he is suppose to be.
Please take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, drink lots of floods, be sure to eat and one last thing...pamper yourself once in a while.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
