Not Being A Victim

[BklynMom]

Thanks wh, & snodderly

WH - My h would like me to get with the program and tell everyone or better yet just announce on facebook that "H & I did not work out. We tried but it was not meant to be. We are friends now and going to happily co-parent our kids" (or something to that effect) He would prefer if I told people since in our marriage I was the person that communicated with friends and relatives so now in our D I should continue that role and explain how happy we are to be splitting up. If I do take this role of the great communicator on then I am seen as trying to stop him or that I dont accept reality.

Snodderly, I really needed to hear everything you said. I know that it is no ones business but I guess I think its a fine line between not talking about it and lying. I feel very uncomfortable when I think I am lying to people

I know divorce isnt taboo any more but I guess its more my pride that makes me so ashamed. Thank you so much for reminding me snodderly thats its all in my head.

Also I just always wanted something more for my kids then what I had. My parents are still together but we lived in a bad neighborhood growing up so I really worked hard to live in a nice neighborhood and I never expected that they would come from a D home. It makes me feel like I let down my kids for not giving them a true home with a mom and dad.