Sorry you are here. You will find strength here. Don't vent to your H ever again. Vent here. Trust me on this.
Your H is living out a script and you can't stop him. Trust me we all have tried to stop ours.....
Read other peoples threads. Keep reading, you will fing amazing bits of wisdom here.
I find the lies to be the hardest to take. I have 4 year old granddaughter. I feel my STBXH was fibbing just like a 4 year old. Lately he hasn't been telling so many lies. I suppose mostly because I don't talk to him about anything except what we must talk about.
I'm sure you will get more advise. But you need to protect yourself and your kids. Make sure you are all taken care of properly.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!