Sandi2 ….Thanks for expanding on that comment for me. I have been doing what you suggested as far as standing up to her, always in a friendly and polite manner. During our last R conversation, which I stupidly incited, and you pointed that out to me I told her that I would seek 50/50 custody of our children. So I presume W knows that kids will be part of my life. As far as how she interprets my niceness I have no control of that, but I will not let her take advantage of me.
I feel at this point I may be staying at home for the kids as much as she is. I don’t want them to know of this if there is a chance W and I can work thru this. I really don’t know why she’s not pushing for separation and/or D at this point, seemed that’s what W was after when she dropped bomb, I can’t and won’t try mind reading this.
Part of me thinks it would be better for R if I did leave then she could have her space and see what I actually do and contribute to the R, I don’t know I’m just venting here but I know someone will slap me around if I need it. Past weekend it rained, like flood warning rained, and was stuck in house with W and kids. I thought it would be very tense but turned out actually quite nice almost seemed like pre bomb civilized but….. I see what you mean about don’t get all excited if W is also nice. I wanted to talk with her so badly but remembered what you great folks keep saying so I didn’t and I’m glad if she wants this R to work she need to realize it in her own time. Limbo is hard!
