Time for LBH to move home? WAW can do the walking.

[AlwaysTrying]

Rules I probably broke:
8. Do not buy gifts to make "brownie points". (Can't buy his/her love and affection.)

1.Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore! This turns the spouse completely off!

I did by her a favorite treat as a peace-making gesture. It wasn't to make brownie points, but to show that I do care about her.

I didn't exactly violate rule 1, but when she sat down to talk with me, I did make an effort to have some constructive conversation. I didn't plead or beg or chase, but I did acknowledge that I am trying to improve our relationship. And I did try to explain some of my past behavior, describe some of the things I've been through over the last year or so, assert that I really have been committed to real change, and express my uncertainty about how much headway I can make in her perception of me without some input on her part.

I don't think I pushed, but I did try to make some points and I could have done well to get her to open up more by talking a little less.

I did good on this one, though:

21. Never lose your cool! Don't let your spouse trap you into a fight. Don't take her/his bait.....leave the room or the house for a while, if you have to, in order to avoid a fight.

Several times she tried to bait me Sunday. I never bit.


I think I really need to work on this more:
31. Do not focus on yourself when communicating with your spouse, instead, focus on them.

We end up talking a lot about what I might have done differently or how I have to change. I'm going to keep rule 31 top of mind over the next week and see how things can be different by talking about her.