This might be last chance??

[jks]

I know that you're hurting and you're frustrated but I would listen to MrBond. He is giving you really great advice. Seriously.

One of the most important points about DB'ing is "DO WHAT WORKS." What you have been doing so far is NOT working. Change your approach. Try to take on a different perspective.

The best way I can see things from my H's perspective and try to get a glimpse of how he's feeling is... I think back on guys that I dated that I didn't feel an attraction to. I knew they were attracted to me, but I just wasn't feeling it for them. It didn't mean they were bad people or they had something wrong with them. It just was something that I felt inside. And to have that person constantly pursue me, is uncomfortable. It doesn't feel right.

Try to look at that as your W's point of view. How can you change your behavior so you're not constantly making her feel uncomfortable? Stop talking about the R. Stop telling her how you feel about her. She knows. Show her that you can be happy and that life goes on. She will soon come to wonder what happened???

I can tell you that when one of the guys I used to date (that I wasn't attracted to) had told me that he no longer felt the same way about me. It still had an affect on me. It made me feel like... why? And had I not been dating my H at this same time, I probably would have felt really sad about it and pondered over what changed to make him feel that way.

Read this over and over until you understand it. I promise, I know how you're feeling to the highest degree. I've felt it all.