Who is going to transport kids at 9:30 at night between houses that are 8 blocks apart.
But that is actually her problem. She chose the separation, you didn't. She is the primary custodian of the children, and is responsible for their transport to your home. The schedule is her problem. She chose to disrupt her children's lives. She should be paying for a sitter to be home with the children each night so that their lives are not so back and forth and disruptive. I honestly cannot see how it is healthy for them to be back and forth so much, and I don't think it's healthy for your well being to be inside of her home all of the time. JMHO.
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But I can't live with myself if I write them off.
You don't have to write your children off. Why are you walking on egg shells with her in order to see the children? You have done nothing wrong. If she blows up because you decide to move forward with your life and tries to take visits away, then that is on her. Why not propose a weekend schedule with her, where you get the children one weekend, and the step father the next. During the week, a sitter is employed for the purpose of stability for the kids? And you get to move forward with your life.
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I can live with myself, at least right now, as a Plan B.
And that is how she will always treat you WHG. She will not respect you, but only see you as plan b. Being just plan b does not sound like someone who is attractive.
She positions the visits in such a way that she is doing you a favor, but she actually just wants someone to rescue her. She wants a nap.....? tell her to call a sitter. You're going to the gym. She's bored and has no one to talk to cause her buddies are not around, so you are second choice? Oops.... I gotta run..... I got a date tonight with some friends.
Being plan b sounds like a miserable existence WHG. You are not a plan B, you are more than that.
