LITB, thank you for posting the picnic analogy. I really needed that!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
I just took the time to read a lot of your old posts/thread. Holy cow, you have been through the ringer - and your ordeal has a lot of similarities to mine.
The list of "things" that you made for your W looked alarmingly like mine and most of them were things that my W stated to me as well.
The cool part of your situation (if there is such a thing) seemed to be that no matter what happened incident-wise in terms of anger or other issues - you two always seemed to drift back to a somewhat peaceful center and carry on as amicably as possible. That is good. It also became very clear in your posts that your W never REALLY stopped having feelings for you on one level or another (using terms of endearment like "babe" or "sweetheart"). She also seemed to never want to be FULLY out of contact with you. I know you have children and that drives part of it - but still.
Anyhow - happy for you. As I said I see some similarities in my situation and can only hope for a positive outcome.
Crimson
Crimson,
Thank you for taking the time to read my threads. I am humbly appreciative. I hope and pray for the best for everyone on these forums.
I haven't re-read my threads in a while. I almost forgot about that list. I know my W saved it along with all of the other cards and letters I gave her since the bomb.
I'll have to catch up on your sitch.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I mean what is YOUR plan? For you, going through this and into the future?
KD,
Thank you for the prayers. I appreciate them and I appreciate your insightful thoughts.
I'll answer your questions the best that I can.
I can already see how difficult this is going to be. A lot of painful emotions are going to be brought back to the surface. It is already happening. The good thing is that I recognize them. I need to focus on the positives and kill the negatives. It is going to take a lot of time and work. I will be leaning on the expertise of others to help give me guidance. I lean on the Pastor of my church quite a bit, MWD and of course members of these forums for starters.
My W has already said multiple times that she needs to get IC. Ironically she had just finished meeting with a therapist in regards to her childhood 16 years ago. Right before we met. She told me that she realizes that she fell into some old patterns of running from her problems.
As a couple, we have already discussed RV and we will certainly be attending.
It will be a never ending process. We will have to adjust accordingly as we go.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I'm glad that some of the things that I am sharing from my archives that helped me are helping others. It says a lot of the many great members of this special community.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
i read your threads this weekend. serious stuff. i am very impressed. i saw alot of my W in your posts about yours.
your story gives me hope. i really need it right now, so thank you.
heartbrokeinsd,
Thank you for your kind words.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
