I think you missed an opportunity, I don't think you got advice not to sign but rather to find out what you were signing and how it would affect you before you signed.

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Told her I am sorry for her situation, but this was her choice. Told her she doesn't have the right to be mad at me, I have respected her decision, but she needs to understand where I am at too. All I was asking for was to sit down and talk about it.
All of this is blaming, shaming and threatening.

Is that what you wanted to project? You didn't need to say any of this, IMO.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss