Yesterday started pretty good. We both went to work...of course, she didn't get home til 7pm and then started dinner. I had said something about catching up on some shows if we could hook up about 5pm, but whatever. She did bring home some beers, so that was cool.
30 mins later she gets a visitor from work (the one she has the EA with) to talk thru a new deal. I took it in stride, went out and said hi....came in, got everyone a beer and hung out during the conversation. After he left, we ate and I wanted to call my dad since we were supposed to drop by the day before. My wife came outside and sat with me as I talked and I tried to hurry. After I got off the phone, she got back on the phone with her work associate. After 10 mins or so, I asked if she was going to wrap that up or if it was going to be an extended conversation. She immediately told me I was rude and how I was on the phone with my Dad, etc.
All in all, this really seems like small fry kinda stuff, but when we got to the BR, I tried to talk to her about it...admitted that I wasn't as respectful as I should have been, but she just continued to get more angry. In her classic avoidance stance, she continued to say "I don't want to talk about it, just turn on the TV." Eventually, I did turn on the TV, but did so with a snotty comment how that was my plan 4 hours prior. That was dumb, and she jumped out of bed, said something about leaving me again (recurring theme) and slept in the LR.
I'm continuing to struggle with where to draw the line. On one hand, I think I should continue to DB in all aspects until she actually says "I want to work on it" (that would definitely keep the peace, and probably make her happier). But on the other hand, I think if I do this, she will just think everything is ok and never actually say anything about working on it. I'm just not sure where we are. We are sort of piecing, but without her actually committing to do so.
Of course, retrovaille next weekend, so maybe that's our turning point for good or bad.
