I understand how hard it is to adjust to being alone again, CTH. I was part of a couple for 17 years, it becomes a major part of who you see yourself as. It's not just a 1 year transition and life is rosey again. The first two years I was alone it was just survival, trying to make sure that my kids were ok, that I was OK and trying to build a new life outside of what I'd known. Thank goodness I had been dbing and had set up a structure of activities that aided me in adjusting. I also understand your need to be busy busy busy, that was me too. I was gonna be the best darn separated guy on the planet, I wasn't gonna end up depresses and on meds like some of my friends uh uh. Whatis was gonna kick the crap out of this thing. I had difficulty when I was alone and had nothing to do and that's when the stinkin thinkin would start. I'd doubt myself, I'd see a "loser" etc. Anyway, just keep pluggin away, it takes time. It really does. Some of that time is real good and some s@cks...not to different than being with someone, when you think about it.
