I wish I could tell you when it ends, but I can't. Sorry.

For me, the majority of the pain ended when I accepted there was nothing I could do about it. When I pleaded and begged, it pushed her to him. When I concentrated on the OM, it pushed her to him. I debated finding him and beating the heck out of him, but it would have pushed her to him and put me in jail which btw will not help in a D.

My advice is not to think nothing is going on or they aren't doing what you think they are. Imagine the worst, because that is most likely how it is. Sorry. Do not ask about the OM. He is nothing. OM doesn't deserve a name.

Stop wasting your energy thinking about the OM and the A. Concentrate on you. Become someone only a fool would leave. You and your W have history. Let the A play out. Let the new wear off. After the 'newness' wears off, your W will start to compare the OM to you and see your good points as long as you GAL and distance yourself.

I still think about my W and OM, but not like I used to and I get over it faster.

M-40
W-33
D3, D4, SD13
T 9 YEARS
M 5 YEARS
ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012