Lots of momentum this week. I thought Saturday was going to be good shopping for presents for our D2 birthday. WRONG. So very wrong. W was untalkative and cold. Before we left she asked if we were shopping and then I had the Ds this weekend. I told her no, we only alternate Sundays. She has the Ds tonight, I have plans.
Time at the store was bad. She made the comment of "this will be one of my gifts". I immediately asked "Are we doing 'mom' and 'dad' gifts now? I thought we were doing gifts from 'us'." She said ok, then drifted away.
When she was leaving my house, I helped bring the Ds out. W took the long way around the car so she wouldn't have to walk past me.
WTF? I did my GAL that night with some buddies.
Today (Sunday) was D2's birthday, (I guess D3 now). We were having it at the W apartment. The minute I walked in the door, it was the cold shoulder. Whatever, I stayed upbeat and played with my Ds.
At the pool, she never got close to me. Whatever, I stayed upbeat.
Sidenote: 6. Do not ask for help from family members or friends.
Conversation with FIL: FIL: How are things going? Me: Ups and downs. Still the same. FIL: Yeah. She is never going to change. She is too much like her mother.
Thanks. That makes me feel better.
Conversation with SIL: SIL: Wow, you have lost a lot of weight. You look good. Me: Thanks. Had to buy new clothes to fit my body better. SIL: Those shirts are going to make your arms look good. That will help you when you are dating.
Seriously? You think I have no chance making it work with the W?
D3 and D4 wanted to swim so I got in the water with them. W followed me out later. Every time my Ds wanted to go in the water, my W would follow me out a few minutes later. Still not close to me. Kinda b!tchy. I asked her to hand me my sunglasses and she fired out "A please would be nice!". Wow.
After everyone left, we went to her apartment so D3 could open the gifts from us. Her attitude starting to get better....
She suggested we walk to the store and rent a movie to watch. Tuesday I told her no, today I decided to say yes. Had a good conversation on the trip.
Watched the movie, ordered pizza. Somehow her feet and then legs ventured on my area of the couch. Later we shared the blanket. No contact, but closeness.
She walked us out to my car. We shared a long hug and out of instinct I gave her a peck on the neck. She said thank you and then a quick peck on the lips.
WTF? How can a woman go from ice cold for 36 hours to my old best friend in a blink of an eye?
Going to go really dark this week to mix things up. I have no real reason to actually see her this week until Saturday when she picks the Ds up. I am not there when she picks them up Tuesday and Thursday and she takes them to daycare Wednesday and Friday. Only day I might see her is if she heads to where I am doing my GAL with friends on Thursday night.
It is a rollercoaster.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
