Please, advice & feedback on saving my marriage

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Since last post I met with my WAW and predictably things did not go well. After some small talk she asked me what we should do next. I shrugged my shoulders and told her I did not know. Really, I have not thought much about it. Well, that is my story to her, but of course I am considering what needs to happen with regards to the house and kids. With the house my W wants to get it sold and new homes found by the start of the new school year, totally unworkable. She is so irrational right now I could scream, but I don't. Given all the work required to get the house in shape to sell, plus time on the market and time to close we might make it by thanksgiving. I have done nothing on that one, not picking up the rope. 

With regards to the kids she thought a good idea was that I only see them at the weekends during the summer.  Not acceptable. I told her my plan was to move back to the house full time and she could take the apt, an option she did not like. In fact she lost her temper and pounded her fist on the table at Bakers Crust, while raising her voice in protest. Her compromise was to stay as we are, again that does not work for weeks I am out of the house since she will have the kids all day and I won't see them. 

Tomorrow we both meet with the kids therapist and this issue will come up. Last time I was there the therapist told me our current arrangement would not be suitable for the summer, and suggested I soften my position with a few weekends thrown in.  I can do that, maybe we take every other weekend. But here is the thing, my W is going to see a more determined, but cool, calm and collected person tomorrow. I will not lose my temper, but will simply state that we should be seeking a solution that puts the kids' interests first, making sure THEY get access to each of us daily if at all possible. I am also going to tell her I am done doing things her way, 6 months of appeasement has given me nothing.  Of course I am struggling with a tactic that may initially push her away more, but she needs to face the consequences of her decisions.  Until she does there won't be any movement, and probably short term this will make her even madder.  During our discussion she thanked me for confirming that her decision to go ahead with D was the right one. Just a little spite coming out there.  

We actually have seen quite a bit of each other in the last week due to various school functions, and things were quite cordial.  That will end after tomorrow I am sure, although I plan to "act as if" she will accept my plan as making the most sense. Doubt she will