I don't know how I missed this thread before. I could have quoted most of the posts; letting the spark die/them thinking all the mlc stuff is easier than fixing it, signs of a man's depression, the DB "not how a husband should feel about thier wife", the no connection (yet, mine had a hard time going a day not contacting me) etc.
When we were in our first round of MC ( before PA came out) we were asked to make a list of what we wanted in a marriage and then we were to share it next session. We never got to the next session, but I found H's list the other day going through papers. His 2 things; passion & fun to hang out with !! This sounds like a 18 year old dating, not a near 40 yr old father of 3 who has been with the same woman for 20 years. I'm not saying he is totally wrong but I had things like trust, financially responsible, appreciation, loyality, love. I always wondered what he had put, now I know... And it was dissapointing on so many levels.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
