Today I have actually started to think that I want D. Two things have tipped me this way.
One is the no contact before the overseas trip. Ok she doesn't need to tell me everything but this was for a funeral in the family. Just a courtesy "I'm getting on the plane". Instead, I got a call from my FIL who was traveling together. I don't think it's petty given the context
Second is a phone call from one of WAW's closest friends. He is adamant D is the only option. I disagree with him on this.
However, he did reiterate somethings that I already knew. WAW has EA on me twice before marriage. Once very early in our relationship and once after a family death. I believed that we had worked through these to a point that M was possible (obviously we didn't properly address the root cause - what she wanted in a relationship). What shocked me is when he said "she was always on the look out for someone better". I need to talk to him more about this. But it's a conclusion reached separately by my FIL when this A was discovered and WAW moved back with the in laws.
This close friend said that he had been disconnected from WAW since he disagreed with her actions and justifications. He could not accept how she was validating the A. He refused her when she asked "aren't you going to take my side?". He is so disappointed that their friendship is only one of small talk now because he is now in the "you don't understand" category (like WAW's family)
I will continue to LRT but I just noticed a shift in how I'm thinking. Before the call above, I had already started to think that there are a lot of WAWs personality that have culminated in this A.
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