adinva, while I understand what you are saying, I do not believe in keeping secrets from my spouse. I'm not judging you by saying that, it's just how I feel.
So as ugly as some of my posts might feel now, I am human and if my W was not willing to accept the good AND the bad in me, then so be it. If my W or anyone for that matter, found my posts and put me to the posts, I would not be ashamed.
That's my feelings and I accept that others might feel different.
