This might be last chance??

[MrBond]

"that I wasn't being difficult or trying to make her mad"

Stop saying stuff like that. You really don't understand what I and everyone else is telling you.

You can't keep being afraid and mindreading about what she will or will not feel. "My way" as you refer to my posts doesn't tell you to give up. It tells you that in order to get her back you can't always worry about what she might or might not do. That's none of your concern.

Let me put it to you this way. She's going to get mad at you no matter what. So what do you want to do protect yourself and your SD? And stop saying how much happier YOU are when you're married. Fact is that you're not married right now. You have a W who is looking to start a new life without you. You have to deal with that and the consequences first in order for you to get rid of the fear.

"W will think I am being controlling and delaying the whole process out of spite."

Almost all of your posts has something like this. She's going to think you're controlling REGARDLESS of what you do. My W accused me of the same thing. EVERYONE's spouse accuses them of the same thing. It's because they don't want to take responsibility for their actions. That's fine. But YOU don't have to do what you don't want to do if it's not in YOUR best interest.

If you sign the papers, you might be liable for the payment if she can't upkeep. Then what happens if she finds another guy and he moves in with her? You'll be stuck paying the house that the two of them are living in. That's reality.

You ask the same questions, yet refuse to budge and want to stay in the hole. All of the posters are offering you a way out to save your M but you're refusing to take it, yet you ask the same questions.