Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

So I think I have almost completely detached from my H and our M. I have barely thought about him at all, and when I do think of him it really isn't with any fondness but not with anger either. I guess this is a good thing but I am wondering if this all happened too fast and at some point I am going to get a smack in the face of emotions because I processed too fast? I have also been getting quite a bit of male attention- and though I am not trying to validate myself through men, it feels good to know that I've still got it and all of the wounds he inflicted on my ego through the bomb, telling me he had never been attracted to me, etc seem to be healing.

Yesterday I got into a minor fender bender-rear ended in my brand new car
I handled it very cool, didn't cry (which would have been my old reaction) and realized a few hours later that I didn't even THINK of calling or texting my H. I didn't even call my mom until a bit later, just got back in my car and headed to my destination. It made me feel more adult to have handled it that way...granted, I haven't filed a police report or called my insurance yet.

I also got a text last night from one of H's friend's wife, who I had been close with. Her and her husband were the other couple we socialized with the most. She asked if I wanted to do something, but I already had plans so we decided we'd get together soon. It felt good to know that I can still maintain relationships with his friends who became "our" friends. That was one thing I had been really feeling sad about. And I know her and I have enough in common that our friendship doesn't have to be based around our marriages.