I've read the posts. I'm thinking about them and I'm rather all over the place mentally and emotionally. I'm trying to step away a bit and regroup, relax, stop obsessing, let go of the reins. I need to be able to think on this with a clear head and an open heart.
In the meantime, I have a dilemma. H has said for years that he would like to have someone that he could bounce things off, relationally. He knows I've chatted on various message boards on various topics (gardening, kids, etc.) and so he said he went looking for something for himself but couldn't find anything. He also meets regularly with other men and men's groups under the term accountability partners, but readily admits that little accountability actually occurs. Without including all the gory details, suffice it to say nothing ever happened.
My dilemma: I can find message boards all over the place with ease. Do I assume that, in spite of his computer career/background, that he really doesn't have the capacity to find them and offer him with a list? Or assume that he does have the ability but really doesn't want to and that's just his excuse? I could probably focus on it and form a position based upon my (tainted) opinion, but I'm throwing that out and asking you wise, experienced folks instead. He has not specifically asked me for a list, just asked me what I googled and how I find them.
To further complicate things, I could give H THIS site, as I feel it is filled with wonderful and insightful advice, but then I feel like I should leave because that just seems awkward. I don't want to leave, but a number of you have asked what his take is on the R and it would certainly provide an open door to that information. If he had searched out his own sites, I would have let him do his own choosing and just crossed my fingers. As it is, if I should offer a list of sites, should I include this one?
