I want to punch your H in the head.

My D9 turns 10 this year. From what I've read, these are the formative years where daughter and father make their important bonds in regards to how girls relate to men in their future.

He's blaming it on work? Yeah, idiot. He's putting his fishing trip over his daughter.

You are right, this is not for you to tell your D nor for you to fix. Just be there for your D9. That's all you can do.