I wish I had been able to detach while my W was living here. I think that Brit was right, they need to be able to separate from guilt about our feelings, so that they can sort out their own. While they are guilty, they feel as if their unhappiness is still tied to us and if they were free...
Sounds like your shifts have her attention. Keep shifting though, she could be testing your changes.
As Cadet says, time is your friend, Kenva.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
