Once the issues have been resolved, you will discover that you will feel so might lighter and be able to turn the focus on to you and your life.
It's good that your children haven't met the ow. It sounds to me like the relationship isn't all that great. If she's ill, she may have cancer or some other disease that keeps her from working. Some day, the answer as to what is wrong w/her will drop in your lap. The reason he's not telling you is because you asked...he thinks he's got one up on you, but he doesn't realize that you really don't care one way or the other.
I know exactly what you are saying about no feeling between you. It's been along time and after all that has taken place, the feelings that you that you now have are the type that you would have for anyone you woudl meet on the street.
Your friend may be right about wanting you back after the divorce, but I would venture to say that is for those who are not experiencing an mlc. My xh never wanted me back and I'm coming up on 10 years for my divorce. Mlc plays out differently than a regular one...sad to say.
I'm glad you have someone that you can talk to. It's good to know that you have someone that you bounce things off of and he sounds very supportive. I wish you all of the best!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
