Need Encouragement part deux

[InAPickle]

So - on the one year anniversary of the divorce:
I got my master bedroom back.

We rearranged the kid's rooms, gave S13 the queen and moved the twins back into D18's room. XW is rooming with her now.

I had been sleeping in the living room for about a couple of months because S13 couldn't handle my snooring, and I actually liked having my own "room" to sleep in better than bunking with S13.

But a couple of weeks ago XW suggested she move into D18's room since D18 was getting ready to go to college. I never once brought up our previous agreement that XW was supposed to move out upon D18's HS graduation. I didn't want to start that discussion, because I really don't give a $hit anymore that she's here. So if I did bring that up, it would be purely out of something negative, spite or vindication or whatever. I don't want to be that person. She'll move out when she's ready, and not because I pushed.

I get the impression she's not ready to "give up her home" and may be that's why she's been warming up a little - just guessing (no I'm not mind reading).

I know, I know, send the 2x4's. I didn't take anyone's advice about keeping the date, but it's actually not on paper. The settlement mentions co-habitation until mutal agreement to seperate, and all that really points to is calculating child support. So in a sense I'm "using" XW to co-parent at close quarters and not drain me financially right now - sounds cold, I know.

She remains in the tunnel or fog or whatever you want to call it, but I believe she will learn the lessons of divorce as life presents them and not from me. I still believe life's lessons are a metaphyical certainty.

I'm just trying to do my best for the kids and a little perhaps for her.

Anyway that's the update in pic's saga.

One more thing: D18 decided she's not going to begin summer semester at UF - feeling rushed - so she'll start in the fall.