My son (oldest) was at his friends house ( the EA's house ) this evening. He called me from his mom's phone, which I didn't know she was over there today. He was crying and wanted me to come get him to bring him home. I drove as fast as I could. I was on a conference call for work and I had my youngest son with me so I didn't press him for anything. I got this from the wife via text....
"I will not come home. I know Chase doesn't want me there. He seems to think he knows what's going on. I will be in touch tomorrow."
I was still on the phone when my son got out of the shower and my W came home to grab the bag she lives out of a few days a week. I'm thankful that I was on the phone talking so I didn't have to say anything to her or my son.
After she left and I got off the phone, I told my son that I know he's upset and I figure if he wants to tell me something he will in his own time. All that matters right now is that I'm here and I love him.
The kids and I went to their room and did "Drive-in Movie Night", which basically means I suspend a sheet in the air like a fort and we get under it and watch a movie.
Strangely, I'm not unnerved at all right now about what went down at the EA's house. Maybe my son saw something or maybe he over heard something regarding my W's plans to move out this summer. I don't know, but I believe I'm going to sleep fine tonight.
I don't know what I'll say to my wife. She's expressed to me over the past 2 years that our oldest son is different towards her after he's been around me more than her. Sounds like she's blaming me and not the fact that she's not home or sleeping in our bed. So I figure she thinks my son and I are having heart felt conversations this evening and to prove to herself that she's right, I never replied to her text I posted above. I was on the phone and driving and had no intention of reading it. I'm not going to reply to it. I have a game tomorrow morning and will notify her that the kids are with me there in the event she comes home and further perpetuates the idea that everyone's against her when she finds we're not home.
I have nothing to say about anything to anyone right now. I've learned, oddly enough through prayer, that sometimes it's best to just sleep on something vs. outpouring over something that could keep you up for hours and accomplish nothing.
What I see in my W's text and her actions when she came home to grab her stuff was the teenager I was talking about in a post above. A whole lot of "I don't need you! I can take care of myself!"
