What your wife does or doesn't do or if she hates you or doesn't hate you or if the kids act like they hate you or they don't is ALL IRRELEVENT!!! The ONLY thing that matters and has mattered for months on end is getting your kids the help they need and especially your son. DO NOT stop until you have him in a longterm facility. It would not have gone this far if you had done this 7 months ago when we implored you to get help. You were so stuck on how wife was acting and going on about forgiveness. It was like planting a few saplings when there was a forest fire raging right in front of you.
Your son will die if you don't intervene and be persistent about getting him into longterm care.And fighting your ex about it is nothing. You should be willing to fight off an army for your kids. And your daughter needs some control as well.
Gineen's advice was spot on. You are the parent, not the friend. I'm glad you're finally doing something. Don't let it be too little too late.
