This might be last chance??

[MrBond]

"I feel she is doing this because she is confused about what she wants and what it takes to make a marriage work."

That's not being compassionate. You have to think OUTSIDE the M. There's something else that's bugging her. Either way you can't "fight" it. That's why you stay stuck.

When you "fight" you are combative. You get defensive. You can't "see" why she's doing what she's doing because to you it's crystal clear.

That's all mind-reading. You can't possibly know or presume to know what she's thinking and feeling.

The sooner you give up that notion, the clearer your eyes will be as to what you plan of action will be.