What if one of the keys to my happiness comes from being M, having a family, a W, kids...? Before I met my wife, I was happy, but I was missing something.
Because this means you weren't really happy in yourself and on your own. You can't look at a person to find something missing in you. Otherwise what are you offering....you're taking from them. And if someone feels responsible for your happiness that's a whole lot of pressure and burden to bear.
No one is saying you shouldn't want to be married or want to be a parent. We're saying you shouldn't NEED it in order to function on a daily basis.
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I feel she is doing this because she is confused about what she wants and what it takes to make a marriage work.
Yes she is confused about what she wants. And I think you're confused as well about what it takes to make a marriage work. We ALL are of we wouldn't be here.
Are you patient enough to give her what she wants even if it means not having what you want?
Are you going to take the time to honestly look at how you can be a better partner to her should you get back together? And yes you contributed to the break up as well...it's never one sided. And even the best of spouses can improve.
