I am glad you decided not to react to your H shananagians, that doesnt mean you shouldnt make protecting you & your kids financial assets a top priority. But dont call your L every time you H acts like a jerk.
Do you guys have a custody schedule? Having a set schedule has helped me tremendously. I am able to plan my own GALing cause I know I dont have the kids, I feel more in control because I am not subject to my H every whim of coming over whenever he has a second. Its really helped me detach (not completely) but its helped.
Your H telling the dog to "Come to papa" is insane. They are delusional. My H still calls me Mommy in front of the girls. They are not living in this reality, they are not living in the reality of their decision.
Hang in there. You are amazing. You can do this for the kids, show them how to be honest and brave even when faced with the biggest obstacles.
Have you been reading LITB updates. His story is very inspiring.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13