We have all felt what your feeling man.
We could all say to our other halfs "You complete me."

But the reality we face has to be navigated. The alternative is to believe our lives are incomplete without marriage and family and not having that or any control over it will only lead to longing, regret and misery.

We have to believe in our heart of hearts and be open to the possibility that we can be happy and fulfilled in any number of different scenarios at least to the point where the thought of what we lost no longer stings us into paralysis.

Don't ever think you wish you two had never met. I used to think that - alot - that God could have planted the souls of my kids in another couple. But that's not right, because they are a part of ME and us. For the joy of having them in my life and the "good years" of marriage, I would go throughthe bomb, the divorce, the pain, the heartache, the rollercoaster, the fvcking "sitch" all over again. And I'm not jus' sain' that to sound aloof. Forgive my French.

Pickle

Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."