I'm sorry to come here today and see that things did not work out for you and your h. But, you can honestly say that you gave the situation your best shot.

I'm glad to see that all of the children are doing well. What about you? How are you doing?

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.