Deciding that I could/would live even if H made a decision he might regret is hard. You want the best for them and you want them. Detaching is saying everyone makes their own decisions and mistakes I can't and won't fix them. Ultimately you want her to be strong enough to make her own choices DVD if she has regrets to act on them. If she doesn't then you have a decision to make.

I think you're making progress. Good for you!