[quote=Accuray]Adinva, DB says that you can change your *relationship* by changing yourself. That's different than changing the other person, but maybe the distinction isn't that meaningful because it's the relationship that's probably more important.[/quote
Unfortunately, CV appears to be interested in changing her H...
As is apparent by many, CV continues to circle around to these "key issues" that seems to be getting her no where. When things are put out there as suggestions, there are reasons CV mentions why she will not do them...
And IMHO, I don't think that boundaries are an issue for CV. I get a feeling she is a very strong woman who has no problems with standing up for what she believes in...
And again IMHO, I think she is so angry (still) and resentful that her H isn't doing what she wants, that she absolutely will not attempt a softer approach...
and the problem remains... nothing will change in the M unless CV actually DOES something...
