Last Resort Technique - Can I correct problems?

[LostIn407]

The meetup went well today. We had one drink and talked mostly about our Ds.

We did talk about her experience at the country bar last night. Mind reading maybe, but I think she made a point to tell me she was with two of her girlfriends. I never asked who she went with.

I asked if she got on the dance floor. She said of course as she likes to dance. I asked her if she two-stepped. She said "no, I didn't slow dance". She then asked me if I two-stepped with anyone when I went. I told her yes as it is the only dance I know. I told her that I wasn't going to be too scared to get on the dance floor. Total 180 for me as she always had to drag me onto the dance floor.

I told her I had plans to go there next Thursday and she said "maybe I will see you there". I can't remember what I did or said, but she quickly said "I can find somewhere else to go on Thursday". I told her no, I didn't mind if she went on the same day as me.

Had the incredible urge to ask what she was going to do tonight as it is my night with the Ds, but I fought it back hard. I know tonight is a night she always does something with the OM. Mini-victory for me.

We talked about how it is nice to be able to go out (not us going out, but individually). She brought up the fact again she has been a mom since 19 and hasn't had the opportunity to just let it loose. I simply validated the point that it is nice and then added that although our situation isn't ideal, if we do make it, then I think it is important that we set aside time for us away from the Ds. She quickly agreed.

I walked her to her car and gave her a handshake and she said "I feel like a dude". So I gave her a quick hug. She gave me another look, so we hugged again but a little longer and a little tighter. I always joke about a$$ out hugs and she made a point to let me know she wasn't giving me an a$$ out hug.

Two weeks ago, I was going to file for D. Today, I think we are SLOWLY on the rise. I predicted this a month ago before she moved out when the oldest D asked us what was going to happen after she moved. I said our R was going to take a huge dive and then slowly start coming back up. I wish I would have listened to myself instead of freaking out and almost filing D papers.