What I was asking is for you to think about what it is that is keeping you so hooked into thinking about her? I know when you're alone and you're sharing the kids that is hard. So if you can say "hey, I'm thinking about her again, how interesting" and then let it pass without any emotional response then that would be a start! Yes, it takes time but I honestly believe there's some kind of hook that's keeping you so focused on her. Good topic for your counselling session. Hang in there, CTH.
