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So I wait, and I wait, and I wait. Kids are out of school. 3 months for her to make a move when it's easiest for the kids to get into the transition. After 3 months....? It's all a coin flip at this point.


Yes, there is the waiting, BUT...you have 3 months to DO things with the kids...take them camping or something every weekend w/o W, even leave Fridays, give W all the time she thinks she needs, w/o the "hassle" of you and the kids around. Leave her with just herself as much as possible, she will not (maybe) be able to justify as much that you are the cause of her unhappiness if you are not around, building memories with the kids, without her. It will take pressure off, and could make you look good (based on what WAW have said here, and my own experience), being so involved with the kids

Hard as it may seem to do, making it easier for her EA (you and the kids gone weekends or whenever) might just give it enough rope to show its reality, it's true colors...or not, and she might decide...

Either way:

-You spend time, good, memory-building time with your kids, giving them a break from the sitch as well as yourself.
-You give W space, doing everything you can.
-You follow YOUR plan (W will make her decisions, and be responsible for them, etc).
-YOU will also get out of your own way (I needed to do this A LOT).
etc

something to chew over...

Have a great weekend!

T^2


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