[LITB]

So here we are, May 24th. The weekend that changed everything for me.

I was beyond ecstatic, because I was getting ready to fly to NM to spend our D’s 9th birthday weekend with her and bring my children back to California for the summer. Before boarding my plane, I had this feeling or intuition that my life was about to change. I didn’t realize to what extent.

I kept words from 25yearMLC in mind…..”Keep the road home paved and smooth”. and I remembered her making the most of her time as a family during their trip to SoCal. I believe it was SoCal before her H left to Alaska.

With those things in mind, I was going to make the best of my weekend. Here’s the thing. It wasn’t an act. It was who I had become. I was back to my old, happy, joking and fun self with some upgrades if you will. To be honest, I didn’t expect anything to come of it. As Starsky states, I had my mojo back. I was going to be happy no matter what was in store.

Last Friday, our D9 had a water play day for her last day of school. Fortunately, my interview ended early and I had the opportunity to attend. My W was already there when I arrived. We shot water guns and threw water balloons. I was playful with my W. Soaked her good. Kids chased me around and I ate it on the grass pretty good. It was a good time.

After we went to her house to change, we headed out to dinner and then went to watch Avengers. Our S6 sat on my lap and our D9 sat on my W’s lap. This is the first time we had been together as a family since Christmas break. Before the movie began, our kids were sitting in the 2 seats between us. Our S6 came over to sit on my lap before the movie began. A few minutes later, my W sat next to me and our D9 sat on her lap.

The next day, our D’s 9th birthday, I picked them up and we headed to an amusement park. It felt like old times. I could feel that the spark between my W and I was back. While we were in the middle of the park figuring out what to do, we were messing around, kids were throwing water at each other and on us. I was being playful with my W, and she looked at me and said, “what dad?”…….I grabbed her in my arms and gave her a big hug. It made quite an impression, which I will share in an email she sent me. (I remember early in my sitch, this would have not been a good idea. As a matter of fact, I believe it was Starsky who told me it made me look weak and desperate. Paraphrasing)

A little later, my W and I were standing next to each while our children were getting ready to get on a ride. As we looked at each other, I teased her like I was going to kiss her. I didn’t. This is a very short convo that left another impression…

W: You are still mine.

I didn’t say anything. I just looked at her.

W: Wow, speechless.

My kids had asked me to get on the ride with them, I looked back at her.

LITB: You have a special opportunity. Don’t wait long.

Those were the highlights of the day. I did mention what took place at dinner a few post back when I spring boarded off of BklynMom’s post.

On Sunday morning, my mom and I picked up our children and headed to California for the summer. My W later told me that she cried for a half hour straight after we left. She was dealing with some of the consequences of her decision.

Next update will include “The Email” to my M getting DB’d.