So much to say, So little room

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Re: So much to say, So little room RoofTop #2250456 06/01/12 05:06 PM
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TSquared2 Member T Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 2,609 Likes: 1 Rocky Mountains	Quote: but at times I did have a short fuse that surfaced after I started working where I currently work. The stress involved with my job was coming home to roost and I was not fair to her or my kids. OH MAN, do I know THAT one...I have emails between W and I to remind me of what a grumpy a-hole I had become...I want to crawl into a hole when I think of it...it embarrasses me that I let work morph me into that. i do see work related issues crop up all the time with men's contribution to the M decline, and/or the start of their mlc. As fathers, I think we need to help our kids get life priorities straight...humans are more than their jobs, and if work messes with home life, then we need to re-evaluate our premises. I did want to bring up that until your W's EA/PA is over, you will not be able to work on the R directly. They just feed each other their justifications and misery, as was posted earlier, and your W will not work on the R, or truly see you, until that falls apart. I have read that fact just about everywhere, and my own sitch bears the truth of that. My W has had, best I can tell from behavior, at least 3 cyber/phone/RL/whatever "soulmates"...heck, even just a few months ago in March she said that "if she was going to be true to herself, she wasn't sure if she could be my friend ever again"...lol...wtf is THAT supposed to mean? Anyway, this last "soulmate" feel through, and I think in a big way (my gut tells me he was a predator creep, but I will not know for sure for a long time, if ever...), because W had an 145 degree change and actually started "seeing" me and my changes. So, hate to say it, but until the EA is resolved, you can only work on YOU and the kids. One thing that I found the works for me to get me through the daily frustrations and all is for me to set "check-in" dates (every 3 months), where I step back and REALLY get deep and truthy with myself if I want to continue to DB, or be done done. Once I decide, I do not worry about (or try not too...lol) making "that" decision until the next check-in date, so many times I have said to myself "I am not quitting until the next check-in, so I can put up with this until then"...keeps me and my effort/energy in the present moment and what I can actually do NOW...its a plan and sticking to it has helped take the stress off a bit... In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm

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So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/29/12 04:48 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	Jack_Three_Beans	05/29/12 09:22 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	BeingMe	05/29/12 09:37 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/30/12 03:26 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/30/12 04:14 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	BeingMe	05/30/12 06:17 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	05/30/12 07:16 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	05/30/12 07:52 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	canadianMrs.	05/30/12 08:54 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/30/12 09:35 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	05/31/12 03:35 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/31/12 07:31 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	05/31/12 09:00 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	05/31/12 10:22 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	05/31/12 10:55 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	Jack_Three_Beans	05/31/12 11:40 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/01/12 03:52 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/01/12 05:06 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/01/12 05:23 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/01/12 08:18 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/02/12 04:44 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/02/12 04:46 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/03/12 05:06 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/04/12 12:15 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/04/12 05:14 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/04/12 01:40 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/04/12 02:00 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	tested metal	06/04/12 02:24 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	seeking answers	06/04/12 08:17 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/05/12 08:56 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/05/12 09:14 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/06/12 04:55 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/10/12 01:53 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/10/12 05:28 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	kml	06/10/12 05:56 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/10/12 03:01 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/11/12 08:06 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/12/12 08:44 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/13/12 08:07 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/14/12 11:59 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/15/12 12:03 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/15/12 05:48 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/15/12 10:13 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	tested metal	06/15/12 01:15 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	seeking answers	06/15/12 02:40 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/15/12 03:10 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/15/12 03:34 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/16/12 04:59 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/16/12 01:06 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	Kimmerz	06/16/12 04:57 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/17/12 03:53 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	Queen_of_Swords	06/17/12 04:05 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/17/12 11:37 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/18/12 04:18 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/18/12 09:32 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	dl443322	06/18/12 09:55 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	dl443322	06/18/12 09:57 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/18/12 11:11 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/20/12 08:13 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/20/12 08:58 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	BeingMe	06/20/12 09:47 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/21/12 04:14 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/27/12 01:18 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/27/12 01:40 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	dl443322	06/27/12 02:43 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/27/12 02:51 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/27/12 04:45 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/27/12 05:14 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	TSquared2	06/27/12 05:36 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/28/12 01:31 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	06/30/12 03:53 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	06/30/12 02:33 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/02/12 02:34 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	07/02/12 06:23 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/03/12 03:28 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	07/03/12 06:59 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	labug	07/04/12 04:30 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/08/12 09:24 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	07/09/12 12:08 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	tested metal	07/09/12 02:49 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/09/12 08:45 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	tested metal	07/09/12 09:49 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	07/11/12 12:08 AM
Re: So much to say, So little room	tested metal	07/11/12 01:38 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/11/12 03:21 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	AJM	07/11/12 05:10 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/11/12 08:23 PM
Re: So much to say, So little room	RoofTop	07/13/12 08:55 PM

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