Hi Bug I went twice (two different meetings) and it didn't feel right to me. A friend of mine who has been going for years, suggested that I try again (another one) until I find the right fit. She said it happened to her too. I will be doing that for sure.
Sometimes it's uncomfortable at first because we don't want to be there. We think to ourselves, maybe not even consciously "This is not my life." "I don't belong here." "Why do I have to be here when he's the one with the problem?"
I felt that way at first but as time went on, I let down my defenses and let the program work on me.
Go with beginner's mind and just listen. Give yourself 6 meetings.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
It absolutely was the plan all along. I fell for it, plain and simple.
So I just got this response from him via email:
It's not my intention to stir the waters, S mentioned it and all I said is we need to discuss it offline. Nothing else was said until I emailed you.
You need to realize that I don't know how the adjustment is going. I tried to get them to talk the other night, but nothing came up so I let it go. You see them on a daily basis and have a much better feel. If possible, can you please communicate how they are doing? I don't think they are comfortable talking to me at this stage and I am in the dark.
I think the restaurant is a great idea. Again the only thing he mentioned is getting the invitations out, it was literally a two sentence conversation, and now that I am thinking of it, came up when C was asking about M's party.
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My response was simple and short
Ok, will do
Once we figure this one out, we need to focus on doing these type of things separately going forward to avoid any of this. It is the reality of our situation, and needs to be this way It's not too late to just start with this one, I haven't talked to S yet. It is really important as we all adjust and move forward.
Let me know what you guys decide and I will support it.
Enjoyed our bike ride yesterday, although a bit shorter than originally anticipated because the weather was a bit iffy. Still incredible and can't wait to do it again.
My brother came into town late yesterday and spent time with him last night, bbq with the boys and then they went out with friends for the night.
Today we are meeting up with my father, his wife and our youngest brother for a baseball game. The first time all 7 of us have gone together. I am really looking forward to it.
