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So my point now is, don't do it if you really don't want to because it will just repeat the history of what frustrated us both...Her going to MC she didn't want to and me attending and hoping for progress that wasn't going to happen

I get this because that's often the sort of hard line I took but I try not to these days. Don't self-sabotage. No expectations.

If she goes to counseling-great! If she engages and does the work-great! If not, that's her stuff.

Interview the counselor before so you don't have a bad experience and turn her off the idea completely.

Good luck, you know I wish the best for you.