S13 got back yesterday from his trip. The past 2 nights have had very little interaction with W. She has been very busy working her part-time job which involves a lot of computer input work. On Wednesday night I just sat at the table with her and did stuff while she worked. Very little talking as I didn't want to interrupt her process. Last night again, she was very busy so I did my own thing. S13 had a friend over to spend the night.
Still more comfortable being around W than in a long time. I've never been much of a conversationalist so I get to feeling awkward sometimes when there is a lot of silence and I don't know how to start a conversation. I do ask more about how her day was and what she did in a more conversational way now that we are talking. She doesn't seem to mind and offers general feedback without getting irritated like she use to.
W has still not moved the tax return money into our joint account yet so I may need to ask about that in the next day or so. She & the kids leave on Friday of next week for the 6 week trip to our former home. I'll be going up Father's day weekend this year to be with them.
I still feel we need to get to counseling and have said so to W. I also explained that she has to want to go as well, otherwise it will be frustrating for both of us. She's taken no active steps to say she wants to get started with counseling again. I'm curious about why she is hesitant. She says she wants to work on our M but doesn't know where to start so I don't understand why she would not want to get a counselor involved to help us. I may just have to ask....
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
