It's not that I am not willing, but my W's last text said to me "I don't get how to make you understand..... She is saying it is over and there is nothing I can do to change it. No counseling, no talking, no nothing. "I'm not your wife anymore" and "I am moving on with my life without you".
What do you do with that?
My H said the same thing to me. Almost exact. And you know what he said a couple weeks ago? That he now can see a future with me. Never thought I'd ever hear that. If you believe in your marriage then believe in it. Get yourself busy and do things that you would have never done before. It's exhilarating and gets your mind off of the madness inside your marriage. Little by little, the hurt you're feeling seems to come less and less. I've been at this for 9.5 months and, no, I do not proclaim to be the greatest DB'er, but at times like this, I can see how WAS's feel confused because they think this is the only answer.
Well we all know, it's not the only answer. There is so much more to be done. Make a list of some great 180's that you can start to implement in your life. And start doing them. Do things that you would never be expected to do. It will feel extremely weird at first and then you'll start to see a difference in you. There's a lot to be said about taking a different approach, even if it feels utterly ridiculous.
Don't give up. Well, I guess, unless you want to. That is completely up to you.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
