I really don't mean to offend anyone or think that I am not "getting it". Problem is i really think she is done. If I would tell her to get papers ready, she would have them ready for me to sign yesterday.
I really have not had an ounce of hope since she said to move my stuff out! Not even one sign... I can give up, let go, and live my life as if....... But I know without a doubt that she will move on without even a second thought.
lol..all of us who have a WAS would have papers served if we asked them to. really? i know you are hurting. i get it. you will never prevail if you dont put in the work. ever think your W is saying hurtful things to try to get through to you. no offense, but you seem pretty unwilling to see anyones point of view and i bet that includes your W's. good luck
It's not that I am not willing, but my W's last text said to me "I don't get how to make you understand..... She is saying it is over and there is nothing I can do to change it. No counseling, no talking, no nothing. "I'm not your wife anymore" and "I am moving on with my life without you".
Let me ask both you a question... what happens when you have done everything and she still wants out? She has checked out and feels that her life is better without you in it... What do you do then?
move on with my head held high knowing i did everything i could. knowing i honestly looked at my shortcomings, worked them out and looked at things from her point of view. knowing i did not quit even when most people would have. knowing i gave my all to keep the family i have always wanted together. knowing i became the father my kids deserve and the husband my wife deserves. no one is perfect. not me, not my W. if i want her to forgive me i need to be willing to do the same for her.
if/when she files it will hurt me to my core. i also know that i will be okay. because i choose to be a better person everyday. i will know that i love my W unconditionally. so much that i want her to be happy, even if its not with me.
