Hi CV. I think your combativeness is self-protection, or anyway mine is, so it doesn't offend me.

Try this on for size. What if you built that bridge simply for you, to prove you can, just to try to love him a little more and practice loving in case there's someone else in your future.

And then when it's possible for you to reconnect with your H, decide then if you want to. But start the work just for yourself.

How's that fit?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.