i find it really interesting that you only respond vehemently to things that obviously touch a raw nerve within you. when anyone offers advice or a different perspective on how you could approach things, you ignore that completely.
vehemently re: raw nerve? Seems logical, though vehemently sounds a little dramatic, like devastated and ballistic. If I agree with something or want to continue thinking about it, there's not much reason to address it.
Originally Posted By: Zig
your h is telling you loud and clear that he is having a hard time with you.
Can I tell you I disagree with your statement, and thereby not ignore it, and not be accused of being argumentative or responding vehemently? I disagree with your statement. Is that okay? Can you give me an example of what you've read in my posts that my H has told me loud and clear that supports your statement? (Or perhaps I'm not understanding your meaning of "having a hard time."
Originally Posted By: Zig
are you asking that because you think that i am bullying you? or that your h is bullying you?
Neither. I was just wondering if your philosophy allowed for such a thing and what it would look like. It doesn't seem like it does. I can feel real empathy for someone that was in that sort of sitch hearing your approach.
Originally Posted By: Zig
but i don't see you letting go of something as little as him eating off your plate - and yes, i do agree that you are a tad bit too focused on that detail.
As stated: not focused, figurative example for posting.
