Feeling "stuck" is exactly how I was when I made the decision to stay with my H. The decision to stay did not change my cold heart. That part took quite longer than most LBH's want to think about having to endure! But the point is.......I did eventually get there.

It breaks my heart that I got off into what I did. I don't know that I'll ever be the same person I once was......and I doubt my family will ever feel the same toward me that they once did. Yes, they still love me, but the respect they once had for me is forever gone.

So, don't give up on her. WAW's are tough to deal with, and you have to be tough with her if you expect to have a future R with her.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!