This might be last chance??

[MrBond]

"But on the other hand, am I forcing my W unhappiness by not giving her what she wants?"

First of all, you have to get one thing straight...

You are not responsible for making your W happy. It's a very important lesson to learn. We are all responsible for our own happiness. A person could be living with cancer and yet be very positive about life. Happiness is a choice that you make.

So you are not "forcing unhappiness" upon her. She's CHOOSING to feel unhappy. She could just as easily feel happy with you, but she's CHOSEN not to.

That's why right now you need to concentrate on the things that make YOU feel happy. And I'm not talking about being with your W. What other things make you feel validated and happy?

If you choose to not push the D, then be happy and proud in that fact. You're not "wasting" your time. But you can't linger on it and make that the sole reason for living and surviving.

If you go back to DR or DB, it shows you how now you can concentrate on the things that you liked to do. What gave you joy? (And again, I'm talking about things that don't include your W). What did you like to do BEFORE you met her?

You want W to be happy. Great. But nothing you can do will "make" her feel happy. She is going to decide for herself what makes her happy and what doesn't. If she feels like she can be happy with you, then it is her choice.

"I know how my W feels."

No you don't.

"I know that there is little chance that she will come back and she will be moving on with her life without me in it."

You keep telling yourself this and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

CHOOSE to be happy.