For my wife and I, we mutually decided to do a series of two 3-month "stays," rather than dismissals (eventually, we did totally dismiss). We decided that the "gun to our heads" had forced us to deal with some things, and that we both responded better to deadlines and the accountability of a still-hanging-over-us divorce, to make us get our crap together.
For us, it was the best thing. I believe that without it, we may have just fell back too quickly into our old, complacent ways. Two 3-month stays was just the trick to hold our feet to the marital fire.
