Last night I saw STBX at baseball. He still lines his chair up with my friends and I which I find interesting. Once S18 arrived he went to sit with him on the bleachers. We were polite which is good for the kids.
When I got home, it was close to 10pm and I got a text from him asking about S18 graduation party. He apparently had a talk with him about having it at our home. He wanted to know what I thought. We had already had this discussion so I found it frustrating that he was discussing it with S18
I reminded him that it would be more comfortable for everyone if we have it at a restaurant, a neutral place. I said that it was my hope to help the kids with this transition and I knew that he would do the same. He said "ok"
This morning he texted to ask if I would send something with the kids when they go to see him tonight. I agreed but it just confirmed something that I was already thinking. He still has everything here. He only took half his clothes and nothing else. He tells my neighbor that this divorce is not happening and he will be moving home, yet continues to party and carry on in the meantime (no work toward what he is saying at all).
I have decided that I will get some boxes and begin with my bedroom and box up his things to make the room my own. I know that I will feel/sleep better. The fact that his back up tapes for work were still here tells me that WAY too much is still here.
He just emailed me at work, joking around, nothing to respond to. I deleted it.
I have a wonderful weekend ahead and will keep my focus on that, and on me & the boys.
